Grief Is The Life Force of The Person Who Has Passed

When someone we love passes away, we are often plunged into a state of grief and disbelief.

Sometimes, that grief is so overwhelming and traumatic that it redefines our entire existence!

Grief creates out of us a new person from the ashes of despair.

There are so many different relationship styles and dependencies we share with others in our lives. Sometimes, as we go through life these relationships may change or morph as time progresses.

We may even experience what appears to completely break or destroy what we mean to each other.

Circumstances and events may transpire where we may believe that we are no longer even important in their lives.

The thing we often do not realize is that we are not seeing reality.

We cannot clearly see the spirit behind the physical person we are interacting with; not until they transition through death into their pure essence.

As the apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13:12:

“For now we see through a glass darkly; but then face to face.Now I know in part, but then I shall know even as I also am known”.

Only death of the body allows us to truly know the immortal spirit with whom we are bonded.

It is also the moment when they see us as well.

We may spend a large chunk of our mourning resolving things that were secret in life, but have now been revealed to both of us.

We, and they can suddenly see the glorious magnificence of our own true selves.

We may also finally notice the worries and concerns that evaporate upon death.

So many of us somehow believe that when we know death is approaching, we may get the grief over with before it arrives.

It can be quite a surprise when we find that is so often not the case.

I think that is why we are almost always shocked into disbelief when we learn of the death of a loved one, or even of acquaintances and celebrities we admire.

That is the moment when we become totally aware of the spirit that carried them; out of sight but always present.

This is the moment when we feel their life force, the part of each other that we shared and will continue to share.

It is the reason why grief is so alien and powerful.

Grief is a power greater than ourselves, it is the life force of the person who passed away; stripped of the weaknesses and limitations of physical life.

They are still with us, right where they have always been!

The part of their spirit that we shared during the course of their lives is now what is left with us.

It can hurt tremendously to clearly see the truth and beauty of who they actually were, are and always will be.

The body that was forced to survive; to eat and sleep and work and fight.

The mind that was made to plan and calculate and analyze and judge.

That has disappeared; and along with it goes the weaknesses, the character defects, the addictions and the dependencies.

What is gone is the need to be prepared for any disaster.

The need to live and thrive and avoid calamity in this physical existence.

What is left to us?

The love.

The life force that is forever attached to our own souls.

We can try to run fast and far from the pain of grief and we can attempt to deny it all we want, but there is no escaping it because it is not coming from ‘out there’.

It is our loved one, continuing to live on where they have always been; in our hearts and in our own essence.

They are not simply trying to communicate with us.

They are not lost to us.

They are not even truly gone.

We are the ones who are finally seeing what they spent their lives knowing about themselves, and they see us as well.

We finally know what they meant and what they wanted for themselves and for their loved ones.

They also become aware of our human limitations, and what we truly are in spirit.

We finally realize how perfect and beautiful we are.

It isn't negligence to see now what we could not know or appreciate while they lived.

We needn't become guilty or ashamed of the ways we may have let them down or misunderstood them.

We are all fighting to survive and use what we have to do the best we can here.

I don't believe we are meant to see what is hidden from us while we live in this physical dimension.

What makes grief truly miraculous and beautiful is exactly what makes it hurt so much.

We experience the glorious mystery of spirit through the realization that we do not die.

What we discover, if we embrace the pain and allow it to show us, is that this is not the whole of our existence!

By embracing grief, we embrace our own immortality.

We are offered a wonderful gift, should we choose to accept it.

The gift of knowing we are only here for a little while, and what comes next is right inside of us.

It is the love of those who have passed away and the love we give to others, alive where we always were and always will be.